What Happens First


Let’s begin by co-discovering what is going on. We take the shame out of the process and take the time to see clearly. Together, we look for a lens that helps you understand your relational attachment history and what has taken place.

If secrets have been kept, we acknowledge the impact of betrayal trauma and the partner’s need for their own recovery and healing process.
We begin with a private, confidential assessment.

The assessment includes each partner and the relationship itself. We work to find the right balance between individual recovery and relational recovery in service of the relationship goals and outcomes.

Let's begin with starting to forge a trustful relationship, connection, and working alliance.
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Contact me to talk through your experience and participate in a private, confidential review of what has taken place in your relationship life.

 There are parts of the psyche that protect through denial.
They are well defended, adept at secrecy, and organized around threat & survival.
Let us begin by looking at what is presenting and begin to make meaning and understanding.

If you are experiencing intimacy problems and are uncertain whether sexual compulsivity or addiction is part of what is happening, an assessment provides an outside perspective and helps identify what is disrupting your relational life.


My framework does not view compulsive sexual behavior as pathology, or a simple impulse-control failure, or a moral weakness. While the behavior itself can be profoundly harmful and destructive, it is not the core problem. Rather, compulsive sexual behavior is best understood as a coping and regulation strategy with roots in early attachment wounds, emotional neglect, abandonment, or chronic misattunement, dissociation, and compartmentation.  It develops as a way to manage unbearable internal states such as loneliness, shame, neglect, emptiness, fear, or longing.


This understanding is not about excusing behavior or avoiding responsibility. It is about understanding a more accurate and compassionate question: What did your nervous system have to learn in order to survive?

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Are My Sexual Behaviors Causing Harm to Me or to those I love?


If you are unsure whether sexual behavior or intimacy patterns may be creating harm or disruptive to your relational life,  click here to begin a process of self-inquiry and reflective screening of indicators of compulsive sexual behavior.

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Begin Where You Are

Begin the path toward repair, renewed trust, and authentic intimacy. Take the next step in your recovery and relationship healing journey. 

I hold deep respect for the courage it takes to seek help in the most private and vulnerable parts of your life. Your privacy and confidentiality are respected and protected.