Supported Disclosure Intensive

The Supported Disclosure Intensive offers a structured, carefully facilitated path for partners to move out of discovery crisis, secrecy, and relational dishonesty and into full honesty and clarity.

This is not a simple exchange of information, but an intentional, preparation-based process designed to end staggered discoveries and create emotional safety, accountability, and truth without causing further harm or re-traumatization. Through guided preparation and a supported disclosure meeting, both partners explore what happened, why it happened, and the impact it has had, while stabilizing the nervous system and clarifying boundaries and needs.

The goal is not to predetermine the future of the relationship, but to establish a truthful foundation from which each partner can make informed, empowered decisions—supporting the possibility of repair, integrity, and a new relational beginning rooted in honesty, whether the relationship ultimately continues or not.

A structured path out of secrecy and discovery crisis

An investment in honesty, safety, and the future foundation of your relationship

Few things in life matter more than your primary relationship

Disclosure Timeline

I understand the urgency and the need to complete the disclosure as soon as possible. It is profoundly difficult for a partner to continue living in uncertainty and the unknown. The pace of this process must balance that urgency with the readiness required for honesty, emotional regulation, and the capacity to receive and integrate the truth that is shared.

The disclosure meeting generally occurs within a three-month timeframe. This allows space to work toward full honesty with oneself and one’s partner, while establishing a communication process that supports presence, listening, and integration. This timeframe also allows for emotional individuation and thoughtful preparation in the period between discovery and disclosure.

We will discuss and determine the disclosure timeline through a thorough assessment process that incorporates your needs, safety, and coming to full relational honesty.

Disclosure Meeting Structure

I work with both partners, together and individually, in preparation for the couple’s disclosure meeting. This integrated approach holds all three relational processes—each partner and the relationship itself. It allows us to stay aligned while honoring the need for appropriate separation, holding and supporting the relationship throughout the process, addressing challenges as they arise, and ensuring that preparation unfolds with care, responsive support, and emotional readiness.

There are situations in which another therapist or coach may be involved or recommended as part of the disclosure process. When this occurs, the work calls for a carefully coordinated and collaborative approach among all professionals involved.

What Disclosure Is — and Is Not

Disclosure is not a simple exchange of information or a confession. It is a structured, trauma-informed process that protects both partners from further harm and stops staggered discoveries. The goal is not to determine the future of the relationship, but to establish a truthful foundation from which each partner can choose next steps with clarity.

Why Disclosure Matters

Without honesty, there can be no emotional safety or genuine intimacy. Disclosure offers reality — and with it, the possibility of repair, accountability, and a new relational beginning rooted in truth.

Preparation Is Essential

Both partners engage in a guided preparation process before the disclosure meeting. This preparation stabilizes the nervous system, clarifies boundaries and needs, and ensures the process unfolds safely and intentionally.

Important Note

Disclosure does not predetermine a relationship outcome. It may support reconnection or separation. If one or both partners have already decided to end the relationship, this disclosure process is not appropriate.

Begin the Supported Disclosure Process

Please contact me to discuss the Supported Disclosure Intensive

Text Dr. Mark Pugsley at ‪(505) 750-4108‬. Include your first name with text.

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Detailed Disclosure Overview

Assessment Process

Disclosure Timeline

Disclosure Cost